Day 3 - Love is not selfish

Along with refraining from negative comments, I was dared to buy my husband something that said, "I was thinking of you today."

Again, I'm going to sound like a broken record (blah, blah, blah) but I do this often. I buy my husband his favorite candy or magazine or whatever on any given day so again, *sigh* this dare did not seem very challenging. I did find myself thinking of it throughout the day though. I kept saying it over and over in my mind, "Buy him something that says I'm thinking about him." I thought of a nice bottle of sipping something that he enjoys when sitting around the fire, but didn't really know what kind he likes. I thought about English Toffee from the local candy maker, but know he's trying to lose weight this year. I thought of a new golf shirt, but goodness knows, he has a ton of those. I thought about buying him something that would help him stay organized as a coach considering this was his first summer coaching a competitive team, but I couldn't wrap my brain around what other than a secretary to keep his emails and paperwork straight but I already AM his secretary so I kept mulling it over and over in my head like worry beads in my pocket and I finally made a decision.


What did you choose to give your spouse?

I chose to buy him two books.  One about coaching boys 7 - 15 years and another that was inspirational about the influence dads have on boys through sports. 

What happened when you gave it?

I left the books in the bag up on the shelf where my husband keeps his things - keys, wallet, mail, etc., and wrote a note that I placed on top of the bag.  The note said, "For Inspiration!"  My husband came home from work and found the bag of books.  He asked me what they were for and I said (duh)"for inspiration" and he said thank you and that was it.

I felt good choosing something that I know he will enjoy.  The process felt good - it forced me to really think about my husabnd, to sort through what's going on in his life these days...what stresses he has, what joys and connecting to your partner's day-to-day concerns is enlightening and growing.  Obviously, my ego would've loved a "WOW" reaction but I've become adept at being grateful for a sincere thank you knowing it is what he has, and knowing that is good for my heart.