Day 10 - Love is unconditional

In a way, this has been my favorite message, not necessarily my favorite dare, but I really loved the message.

Today's dare asked me to do something out of the ordinary for my husband - something that proves to me and him that my love is based on choice and nothing else. It suggested things like washing the car, cleaning the kitchen, folding the laundry, and that I should demonstrate love to him out of the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage. Whew.



Ok, so I haven't come up with what to do yet so I'm guessing today's blog with be a two-parter, but what I did want to digest and talk about was the chapter itself. It talked about the different kinds of love, agape (unconditional love), phileo (friendship) and eros (sexual love), and how a marriage cannot be based on the latter two.



I have come to that realization in the 20 years I've been married because great sex (eros) or attributes or circumstances are vital to a marriage but without unconditional love, if the sex wanes or the circumstances change, there's nothing to hold you together.


I don't know that I've actually achieved unconditional love but I do strive for it. I think what struck me the most was the reference to God's unconditional love for us and how if we had to "earn" or "deserve" God's love, we would fail and that really opened up my heart. It made me see that my husband might not "deserve" my love - not because he's a monster or anything ridiculous like that but when he's making me crazy or irritates me, and I think, "Yeah, right!" but no, I have to think, unconditionally is the "better or worse" "sickness or health" parts. The promises part.