Oh, boy! My dare today was to talk to my husband about establishing healthy rules of engagement but if he's not ready for this, then I am supposed to write out my own personal rules to "fight" by and to resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
Whew! Okay, so I decided not to approach my husband with this one today. He was grumpy and fussy (sounds like dwarves gone bad!) :0) when he got home today and that is it's own issue for me, so I, instead, have decided to make some decision (rules) for myself to stand by. I have control over me and I know that by doing what I can to "fight fair" will be a help to us overall because it takes two to "fight" and a fire can't start, if the match can't strike the wick.
If your spouse participated with you, what was their response?
I'm going this one alone.
What rules did you right for yourself?
- I will listen first before speaking, and I will not interrupt. "Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger." James 1:19
- I will deal with my own issues upfront, knowing that my projection only makes matters worse. "Why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?" Matthew 7:3
- I will speak gently and lovingly and will keep my voice down. "A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1
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